Keys To Being A Likable Person

April 14, 2017

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Everyone likes to be liked and it seems that being likable is natural and comes easy to the beautiful, smart, rich or talented people.  According to a new study, your likability has nothing to do with looks, smarts or talent. Its sincerity, transparency, and capable of understanding (another person) that win people. Research data from over a million people concluded that your likability not only does wonders on the social scene but can excel your professional performance.  So here are some bad behaviors that turn people off to you, such as sharing too early. Over-sharing comes across as self-obsessed and insensitive to the balance of the conversation. As you tell about yourself, ask questions about them too. People see name-dropping pretentious and silly and makes people feel you are insecure, shallow and very concerned with having them like you. Simply being friendly and considerate is all you need to win people over. Not asking enough questions.  One of the biggest mistakes in conversations is being so focused on what you're gonna say next that you miss what the person is saying.  So avoid that trap and listen to what they have to say and ask questions about their statements. Keep an open mind.  Having a conversation with someone who has already formed an opinion and is unwilling to listen is a turn off.  Listen to opposing views and avoid judgment.  Just listening doesn't mean you have to agree with them.  Finally, balance. Likable people balance their passion for their work with their ability to have fun. At work they are serious, yet friendly. They still get things done because they are socially effective in short amounts of time and they capitalize on valuable social moments. They focus on having meaningful interactions with their coworkers, remembering what people said to them yesterday or last week, which shows people that they are just as important to them as their work is.

SOURCE: Forbes

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